October 7, 2007

“Go Read Some Porn…

Posted in Buggle Bite, Motherhood, Parenting at 6:57 pm by Momma

…and loosen up a little.” Was advice given to me by my very own MOTHER last night! Doubt I’ll find that kind of advice in any parenting book! 😯

Okay, I’ll back up…

I am one of those crazy Mommies who does the “Mommy comparing thing.” You know, you’ve done it too. Comparing my little guy to other children close to his age. …so and so can do this….so and so is starting to….so and so can’t….blah, blah, blah. I also tend to make matters worse by reading way too many parenting magazines, journals, and books. A few months back my Parenting magazine had an article about autism. (side note: for those of you who don’t know, I used to be a respite provider for an autistic boy, so I know a fair amount about the disorder.) The article had one little blurb that stuck out like a sore thumb to me and of course I obsessed over it, and then Dad-Oh started obsessing too. It stated that, children that don’t respond to their name each time it was called by twelve months are 50 times more likely to be diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder. FIFTY times!!! That is huge. So of course I began testing Aidan. If I was lucky he would respond 2-3 times out of five tries. Partially, because he didn’t give a rip. Even still my suspicion grew… because when he gets very excited he flaps his little arms–which is another autistic trait. Last night a friend said, “look he does the little autistic flap.” I went into the freak out mode, and Dad-Oh said, “you used to flap too! your mom told me!” Not believing him led to him calling her on the spot, confirming that excitement flapping is hereditary!

Okay, so what does this all mean? No, I do not think my little guy is autistic. He has achieved all milestones in a timely manner, and is strong, happy and healthy. But, as a Mom I want his life to be perfect. So I worry like crazy. I am constantly over analyzing things and reading too much for my own good! Hence, my mother’s comment about reading porn and relaxing…..

Auntie Manda don’t even THINK about mailing me ANYTHING!!!!

Maybe I’ll just go back to my pre-child magazine of choice: US Weekly! Gotta love the celeb gossip! 😛

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3 Comments »

  1. Randi said,

    I am so with you, these kind of things are what I’ve been blogging about and dealing with emotionally…ugh.

  2. Auntie Manda said,

    You got me. I was just on my way to the post office with the newest Vajenna.

    Geez, I knew you were a worry wart but come on…what part of SR don’t YOU understand?!? 😛

    I’m agreeing with Mom on this one…porn solves all.

  3. laura said,

    Aidan’s so far from autistic!! Just think of how attentive he is to everything in his world and the interest he takes in new experiences. 🙂 You have loads of pictures of him pointing at things — that’s something kids with autism don’t do!

    Talk about having something to fixate on–schizophrenia is in my fam and statistically *at least* one child out of each generation will have it. There were moments when I’d look at how hard it was to settle baby Deeder and compare him with my sister who would only sleep swaddled and strapped into her carseat!!
    I’m glad that you and Dad-Oh don’t really think your little dude is autistic. 🙂 There’s something weird in everyone! When split personality disorder was really popular everyone was seeing symptoms in themselves…that’s just how it is! 😛


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